I don't know if this is out of order here but it's my situation and I'd like to know if anyone else is in the same boat. I am not writing this for judgement and I will not reply to comments that judge. If this subject is not approriate here, moderator pls feel free to delete the thread.
I will not defend my situation, I'm just saying that it's not always black and white. It really makes the situation very hard, first with the distance and then the secrecy. In our case we were both married when we met online, as friends. I felt my marriage had come to an end and finally after meeting him in a similar situation I had the courage to let go of my marriage. We had tried to fix it, been to counseling but there was too much broken already.
Right now, he is looking to leave his relationship and it's really hard on him but also on me. He has been severy betrayed in his marriage but he has given everything by being the stay home dad to his stepson and now he has nothing. He has to build up a career before he can leave to have a roof over his head. He cannot promise any timeframe for me and so far it's all been slower than we've wanted. It's very hard to start a new business from scratch and he is trying to stay positive and look for clients since that is the only way that will take him from there to here.
I just feel that I'm so stuck waiting but I know that he would be here if he could. To keep everything smooth at his end, he cannot see me unless he has an alibi. Noone knows about me but my family and kids know him through skype. This is far from ideal and I have tried to stay positive but it's really frustrating and stressful of not knowing of the future. We have met twice during the 2+ years we've known. Now it's been a year soon and next date is unknown. He has promised me Christmas though. He will be free by then.
I will not defend my situation, I'm just saying that it's not always black and white. It really makes the situation very hard, first with the distance and then the secrecy. In our case we were both married when we met online, as friends. I felt my marriage had come to an end and finally after meeting him in a similar situation I had the courage to let go of my marriage. We had tried to fix it, been to counseling but there was too much broken already.
Right now, he is looking to leave his relationship and it's really hard on him but also on me. He has been severy betrayed in his marriage but he has given everything by being the stay home dad to his stepson and now he has nothing. He has to build up a career before he can leave to have a roof over his head. He cannot promise any timeframe for me and so far it's all been slower than we've wanted. It's very hard to start a new business from scratch and he is trying to stay positive and look for clients since that is the only way that will take him from there to here.
I just feel that I'm so stuck waiting but I know that he would be here if he could. To keep everything smooth at his end, he cannot see me unless he has an alibi. Noone knows about me but my family and kids know him through skype. This is far from ideal and I have tried to stay positive but it's really frustrating and stressful of not knowing of the future. We have met twice during the 2+ years we've known. Now it's been a year soon and next date is unknown. He has promised me Christmas though. He will be free by then.
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