You can still grow up, not get bored of one another, experience life together, and wait for each other without being married. Simply want to put that out there.
18 is young to me, and every 18-year-old feels they're mature enough to get married, ready to take that step, and they can't imagine being at the alter with anyone other than their high school sweetheart. I'm not saying every marriage with an 18-year-old who thought this way ends in divorce, and some last quite happily, but I am saying that it does outweigh the number of 18-year-olds who feel the same way you do and ultimately end up not being happy later on.
The other thing, too, is remaining emotionally detached does not mean he will be completely prepared for what he will see if he ever sees the frontlines. Thinking you're prepared to lose comrades and actually being in a position where you lose them is entirely different. He cannot say now whether or not he will be able to keep his war life separate from his home life, especially if he sees battle and ends up experiencing PTSD. The best he can do is seek counselling once he's home from that situation and receive any treatment to keep any consequences of battle away from his family and children.
Still, I don't see what the rush is to get married. If two people are meant to be together forever, marriage isn't going to ensure that happens, and for as many happily married couples, you can find an equal number of unhappily married couples. I think the main issue is people change so much in their 20s (statistically, they change more than high school) and it's impossible to determine what those changes will be at 18. Everyone wants to believe they've found the one they're willing to work towards a forever with, but sometimes things change and people grow apart. I would rather simply be confident in knowing I was loved and with my forever and get married later, when we were in more of a stable place to handle the practical side of marriage, but everyone takes a different path. *shrug* Still, I think 18 is young, regardless of how mature and ready the individuals think they are.
18 is young to me, and every 18-year-old feels they're mature enough to get married, ready to take that step, and they can't imagine being at the alter with anyone other than their high school sweetheart. I'm not saying every marriage with an 18-year-old who thought this way ends in divorce, and some last quite happily, but I am saying that it does outweigh the number of 18-year-olds who feel the same way you do and ultimately end up not being happy later on.
The other thing, too, is remaining emotionally detached does not mean he will be completely prepared for what he will see if he ever sees the frontlines. Thinking you're prepared to lose comrades and actually being in a position where you lose them is entirely different. He cannot say now whether or not he will be able to keep his war life separate from his home life, especially if he sees battle and ends up experiencing PTSD. The best he can do is seek counselling once he's home from that situation and receive any treatment to keep any consequences of battle away from his family and children.
Still, I don't see what the rush is to get married. If two people are meant to be together forever, marriage isn't going to ensure that happens, and for as many happily married couples, you can find an equal number of unhappily married couples. I think the main issue is people change so much in their 20s (statistically, they change more than high school) and it's impossible to determine what those changes will be at 18. Everyone wants to believe they've found the one they're willing to work towards a forever with, but sometimes things change and people grow apart. I would rather simply be confident in knowing I was loved and with my forever and get married later, when we were in more of a stable place to handle the practical side of marriage, but everyone takes a different path. *shrug* Still, I think 18 is young, regardless of how mature and ready the individuals think they are.
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