Marriage talk with your SO

[murphfan51]

My SO and I have multiple times, especially when we first got together!
Come up again since he wanted my ring to be my engagement ring but he insists its not expensive enough! LOL
We've also spoken about kids, we even made a list of names we like a year back and we are quite persistent on two names, one boy one and one girl one!

[rivi87]

In most relationships that I've heard the girl is usually is the one that likes to talk about those things. In my relationship it was the other way :P Mitch would bring it up all the time when I plan for the present and didn't look so far ahead. At the same time it's nice to hear him say those things..when we will have kids..where we'll live. And now that we are married it makes me smile

[Lina]

Same thing here xD We've never met before and ofc we're not engaged yet, lol. But we like to think about it and daydream of how it would be. Deep inside we know this is the way we'll follow, marriage I mean.

[FadedSunrise]

No. It is too early IMO, and we are both very career focused people. We can't imagine being married to each other or anyone else until we're at least moderately successful and can contribute to such a marriage.

[churchgrim]

We often talk about a wedding, sharing photos or what we see each other in, who would be invited, all that gooey stuff.
The big question we can never answer is where! Having two weddings (one official, another just the ceremony) so both families can attend has come up, which I've been considering for a while now.

[heylittlekrissy]

We've discussed getting married and being married before, never really the details of the wedding though. Mostly just that when the time is right, I want to be with him, and he wants to be with me, and we want it to be official. We've talked about where each of us would like to live, what kind of house we'd want, how many kids we'd want, etc, but we know we've got time so we aren't worried about exact details yet for a wedding. It still makes for cute little conversations though

[TheBadRomancer]

No. I'm scared to even bring it up. lmfao. I'm afraid I'll be moving too fast.

[Meilisha]

Me and my SO did it alot in person, but we just joke around when were apart. We've even talked about having kids! D:

[lademoiselle]

We do bring up the topic from time to time, but don't focus on the details

[LoveJ]

We definitely talk about where we want to have our ceremony and the kind of theme we want. I'm lucky to have a fiancee that wants to be involved in this stuff and because of it we're going to have a pretty amazing wedding. There are still some things I'm not going to discuss too in-depth, like what I'll be wearing. That's going to stay a surprise

[Jazi]

We definitely talk about where we want to have our ceremony and the kind of theme we want. I'm lucky to have a fiancee that wants to be involved in this stuff and because of it we're going to have a pretty amazing wedding. There are still some things I'm not going to discuss too in-depth, like what I'll be wearing. That's going to stay a surprise

My SO wants to be involved too and one day I was browsing wedding dresses online, he wanted to see what I was looking at and of course I didn't show him.. But we did play a fun little game where I linked him to the wedding dress site and got him to choose out dresses he thinks I will pick and dresses he likes.. I didn't give away any hints though but it was really interesting to see what he thought.

[efish1042]

We talk about marriage in the vague abstract sense... as in, yeah it's something we both want in the future, but we aren't declaring that we want to marry each other yet. We tell each other random things like how we want the wedding to be or how we would raise kids, but never claim that we're doing it together. We're not ready to take a step like that yet.

[Haley53]

We both discuss marriage but not the details. We have ideas of what we would like (for example, we both want an outdoor wedding and not to be married in a church, and we would both like to have ceremonies in the other's country) and wouldn't, but seeing as we're not at the point of getting married yet, nor are we in any great rush to be engaged, we don't often actually plan. We'll sometimes exchange pictures of pretty rings/dresses, and we'll discuss other things, like when it comes to child rearing etc., but nothing too detailed or "plan-y." He does want to be quite involved, however, and is equally excited, and he shares my philosophy that a wedding is about both and it's not simply the bride's day. So you could say we talk future, but casually?

[dukes2011]

We definitely talk about it and know we want to get married, but right now we take it one day at a time. We've never talked specifics like where and when. He recently got a full-time job at a school next year and started talking about where we should live once we're married. I should have been excited, but it just stressed me out seeing as it's exam week right now. There are a lot of things up in the air, so we'd rather let life run its course for a while. Whatever is meant to be will be. I wish I could daydream about a wedding, but it seems too soon to me to plan things out when we're not engaged yet.

[DemonxOisin]

We have certainly agreed that we donīt want to get married until weīve both finished school at the very least. We are quite content with the commitment of a relationship, we donīt need marriage to reassure each other that we will be together forever Also, neither one of us believes in divorce for all but the most extreme of cases, so we want to be damn sure before we tie the knot.
However having said that, we are "unofficially engaged," in that we have agreed that we both want to spend the rest of our lives with each other. Baring some kind of huge falling out, we cannot think of a reason why we would be incompatible as of yet. But weīve only been together a year and a half, all of it long distance, so who knows. Maybe heīll end up having a huge problem with me peeing in the shower or something, and thatīs a huge deal breaker right there xD