Is your SO considerably more attractive than you?

[thatgirllit]

One thing I really don't care for is creating duplicate thread (especially as a newbie), so if this has already been posted, someone please let me know. However, the only two threads I have seen cover this topic were "Are you attractive?" and "Is your SO the most attractive person ever?" These are not really the question I want to ask.

So without further pretense, "Is your SO considerably more attractive than you?" or "Are you considerably more attractive than your SO?"

My SO does not photograph well (I don't think I do either) and it has been about six months since we last saw each other in person. I've only kept up with him physically through pictures on Facebook and the weekend Skype chats. Anyway, last night we were talking on Skype and he was like, "I want to see you before bed." So we turned out our webcams and started...er...chatting. Before we logged on he was complaining that he needed to shave and I was like it doesn't matter. But seriously, after he turned on the webcam, I was like "WOW." He's usually an attractive guy, but with a little bit of facial hair he was...gorgeous.

And I know it sounds horrible, but momentarily I was like, "Am I cute enough to be dating him?" If he knew I thought this or said this he would be both amused and angry. And I looked in in the mirror and I was like "Nah...we're pretty much on par." But I thought about it some more and realized that if he WAS model gorgeous (Old Spice Guy gorgeous) I would probably feel insecure dating him...and probably wouldn't. It's not that I need to be the pretty one in the relationship, but I never want to feel like people are like, "Why is he with her?" Does anyone get that?

1) I know that the most attractive thing about a person is their confidence. I have some friends who are not the most attractive or bigger and they pull the most intelligent and gorgeous guys left and right because they are confident in who they are. And not surprisingly, I have never thought, "Why is he with her?" Because those chicks are bad (as in great) and those guys are lucky to be with them.

2) I know that it's "what's on the inside that counts," but come on...

Ahhh...so..."Is your SO considerably more attractive than you?" or "Are you considerably more attractive than your SO?" and if so, how do you feel about it?

[Sunbeam]

I think my SO is more attractive than me. His face is just... whoa, perfect. And I don't know, the only good thing I have about myself is my eyes...
I don't really feel anything about it. I'm honestly more secure in my LDR than I've ever been in a CDR, and all I really think is "well, he chose me, even at 3762 miles away, so why should I worry about how attractive others think I am?" He thinks I'm gorgeous, and I suppose his opinion is the one keeping the relationship

[thatgirllit]

I think my SO is more attractive than me. His face is just... whoa, perfect. And I don't know, the only good thing I have about myself is my eyes...
I don't really feel anything about it. I'm honestly more secure in my LDR than I've ever been in a CDR, and all I really think is "well, he chose me, even at 3762 miles away, so why should I worry about how attractive others think I am?" He thinks I'm gorgeous, and I suppose his opinion is the one keeping the relationship

At the end of the day, that is really what it boils down to...although, the thoughts do creep in sometimes.

If that's you and your SO in your avatar then you are a cutie and he's definitely a lucky guy. lol, seriously, I don't know you I have no reason to lie. I'm one of those people who when a mother shows me her baby if it's not cute I'm like, "Oh, look her little hands (feet, noes, ect., anything not to say cute)." LOL

[Darth_Taco]

I'm way hotter than him ;D.

[mllebamako]

I think we're pretty equal

[Jgui]

I think we're both equally attractive.

[MadMolly]

I was always the more attractive one of my exes, but with my most recent guy, he was sooooo hot. Definitely a head turner, whereas I am a little bit plainer in comparison. I even heard a girl in the bar we went to when I visited him say something to that degree. Bitch. Haha!

[kiara_silver]

I've done that too, thought if people looked at us would they wonder why he's with me? Or am i pretty enough. lol I know he would think me silly, but it does cross my mind and then all those silly thoughts enter my head. If asking between us i definatly think my SO is the better looking one. I don't think im unattractive, but definatly not a head turner. Luckily for me my SO wouldn't care what I look like. But yeah hes so sexy and when on cam sometimes when i just look at him i get all smiley lol cause hes mine yum, lol

[squeeker]

I definitely think my guy is the better looking one out of us, but we have "arguments" (silly arguments though!) over this all the time.. for me I have recently started accepting more of his compliments to make him happy, also to show him that I appreciate them! But I still find it hard because I find it weird to say or even think "I'm pretty".. especially not outloud lol.. but my guy is much more stubborn than me.. and I can't let him win because he is so good looking and I love every part of him so much. I think maybe.. to sum this up.. I'll just say.. we're probably about equal! lol

[thatgirllit]

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I'm way hotter than him ;D.

Love it!

I think we're pretty equal

I think we're both equally attractive.

I was always the more attractive one of my exes, but with my most recent guy, he was sooooo hot. Definitely a head turner, whereas I am a little bit plainer in comparison. I even heard a girl in the bar we went to when I visited him say something to that degree. Bitch. Haha!

Lol, that is exactly what I am talking about. OMG, though I can't believe you heard her say it. She would have got the stank eye from me. Like "I know, you know I heard you."

I've done that too, thought if people looked at us would they wonder why he's with me? Or am i pretty enough. lol I know he would think me silly, but it does cross my mind and then all those silly thoughts enter my head. If asking between us i definatly think my SO is the better looking one. I don't think im unattractive, but definatly not a head turner. Luckily for me my SO wouldn't care what I look like. But yeah hes so sexy and when on cam sometimes when i just look at him i get all smiley lol cause hes mine yum, lol

Yeah, I was like, "You look reeeeally good. He was so confused. And then these thoughts move to..."Well there are cuter girls out there...blah, blah, blah" all a waste of time, but they do occasionally creep in.

I definitely think my guy is the better looking one out of us, but we have "arguments" (silly arguments though!) over this all the time.. for me I have recently started accepting more of his compliments to make him happy, also to show him that I appreciate them! But I still find it hard because I find it weird to say or even think "I'm pretty".. especially not outloud lol.. but my guy is much more stubborn than me.. and I can't let him win because he is so good looking and I love every part of him so much. I think maybe.. to sum this up.. I'll just say.. we're probably about equal! lol

I think this is one of the hardest things to learn how to do. How to accepts comments graciously. I think it's always hard for me because secretly I like, "Are they punking me?" LOL My SO has helped me learned to love my body. I appreciate that.

[Engel]

He has beautiful green eyes, I have big boobs.


He is tall, I have big boobs.

He has this amazing smile that makes me melt.

My mother spent thousands and thousands of dollars on braces, and years of me being tortured, so my smile better be good.





I think we fit together. perfectly. <3

[Alemap]

I am probably very slightly more striking than he is (in that more guys check me out than women do him when we're out together), but he is a very handsome man. I know it's not just my opinion, because the first thing anyone - male and female - says when I show them his photo is, "Oh, he's a good-looking boy, [Alemap]. Nice pull." (the second thing they unanimously say is, "He's very American-looking, isn't he?" which always makes me laugh, since it happens so constantly, when I have no idea what that even means!) ;-)

[thatgirllit]

He has beautiful green eyes, I have big boobs.


He is tall, I have big boobs.

He has this amazing smile that makes me melt.

My mother spent thousands and thousands of dollars on braces, and years of me being tortured, so my smile better be good.





I think we fit together. perfectly. <3

I'm pretty sure if my SO could date the "twins" and not me he would LOL...JK...but no, really.

I am probably very slightly more striking than he is (in that more guys check me out than women do him when we're out together), but he is a very handsome man. I know it's not just my opinion, because the first thing anyone - male and female - says when I show them his photo is, "Oh, he's a good-looking boy, [Alemap]. Nice pull." (the second thing they unanimously say is, "He's very American-looking, isn't he?" which always makes me laugh, since it happens so constantly, when I have no idea what that even means!) ;-)

I'm in East Asia I have heard women say that about men...he looks European or he looks American. The only thing I have noticed is that the guys who have said they think look American are either very muscular or very rugged looking. The guys they think look European tend to be a little more stylish and put together.

[Alemap]

Yeah, I'm getting the feeling it has something to do with the jaw; he has a very lantern/square jaw, and I think that might be what people are talking about.
I can recall my Mum, when I was a kid, scaring my sister and I off chewing gum by threatening that our chins would distend into big, jutting ones from the exercise and we'd look "like American sailors".
Anyway, that's my theory. :-)

[nicole]

I was sort of a late bloomer in the looks department, so when my SO says he's "out of his league" with me, it's hard to comprehend. He's said his work colleagues are all like "how on earth did you get her?!?!?!" too. And having spent years being teased for being plain and wearing glasses, it's hard to comprehend I'm prettier then I think. I personally think he is GORGEOUS and I'M the lucky one, but I think so long as we both think that, we'll both be equal lol