Bittersweet visit

[MystChic]

I'm so sorry to hear about your visit.. *leaves a cup of freshly brewed tea* I don't make very good coffee...

[Moon]

I'm glad you're back safe and I'm sorry the trip didn't turn out the way you wanted. I am proud of you for getting on that plane though, and going outside of your comfort zone You've just opened the world up for yourself, and that, on its own, is a great thing!

[Zephii]

You are so brave. Good on you for getting through that all. Seriously.

I'm sorry he didn't treat you better though, there really is no excuse for that. There are 100 things he could have done a little differently to make your visit more worthwhile because you really are one awesome chick and I'm worried that your low selfesteem will make you think you don't deserve better, when you really do.

Many loves and carrots xx

[Karringtyn]

You are so brave. Good on you for getting through that all. Seriously.

I'm sorry he didn't treat you better though, there really is no excuse for that. There are 100 things he could have done a little differently to make your visit more worthwhile because you really are one awesome chick and I'm worried that your low selfesteem will make you think you don't deserve better, when you really do.

Many loves and carrots xx

As always...well said!!

LMH....you truly deserve sooo much!! I hope you are doing ok today..please don't keep it inside...let it out.

[Caitlin2009]

You are so brave. Good on you for getting through that all. Seriously.

I'm sorry he didn't treat you better though, there really is no excuse for that. There are 100 things he could have done a little differently to make your visit more worthwhile because you really are one awesome chick and I'm worried that your low selfesteem will make you think you don't deserve better, when you really do.

Many loves and carrots xx

amen to that, and i'll be the first to say that i really dont like your SO because he's always putting work before you, he goes days sometimes weeks without talking to you, he refused to pick you up at the airport i mean least he could do was send a cab for you but he didnt even do that, and i really doubt Disney World is that hard assed with working there employee's come on no company is that bad, i dunno i just feel like he's taking advantage of you because you do have a self asteem issues and he's feeding off of that. you deserve better and deep down i think you know that

[LadyMarchHare]

Zephii: While I agree there were things he could've done differently, I think there was a lot of hoping and dreaming riding on this trip on his end. My view on it is had we had better communication beforehand (texting's really a bad form and his computer died a couple months ago) things would have gone better. Unfortunately it didn't so wires got crossed and we ended up with a sour parting. It wasn't too bad though, I didn't spend the rest of my time at the hotel moping at least.

caitlin2009: I really don't want to sound like a raving bitch with this, but lay off my man. First off, he does not make his work schedule, his superiors do and he only accumulates so many vacation days which are often used for sick days. His hours are early morning to late at night, sometimes til 2 am on weekends and he gets x amount of 5 minute breaks each day. I've already mentioned we have a monkey wrench in our texting because some of my texts don't go through so that accounts for some incidents. As for WDW, I believe another member on here can back me up on their "hard assed"ness since they themselves worked there and told me in one of my blog entries they're honestly not fun to work for. And just how is he taking advantage of me? It wasn't his idea that I visit, it wasn't his idea I book 8 nights, and he's never demanded anything of me. Look, I appreciate your genuine concern for me, honestly I do, but you're seeing things that are not there. This guy is NOT, I repeat, NOT a bad man in any way and while as I told zephii there could have been ways things could have changed for the better, we were both working on new territory and we didn't have the greatest communication prior to me getting there. I am not naive in any sense of the word, I know users when I see them, and that is not the case with my SO. Yes we have some very unfavorable circumstances but that doesn't make him a bad boyfriend. You can dislike him until your face turns blue but I'd prefer you please keep those thoughts to yourself when around me, thank you.

[Caitlin2009]

right see this might be your man.....but he didnt even treat you with any sort of respect and it seems like he never does, if he did he would call you more often and lot leave you hanging for weeks sometimes waiting for him to respond! now i know sometimes people dont have the money to pick up there bf/gf up from the airport or go to the airport with them when they have to leave.....and thats fine but he could have taken a few days off from his work to do so with you and he didnt because he had to work! that shows a hell of alot of disrespect im sorry but why should i respect your man when he doesnt respect you.

[LadyMarchHare]

I never said you had to respect him as you're more than welcome to your opinions, but not to voice them to me. Again I will say the man HAD to work, he was given no choice in the matter just as he was given no choice in having to work on Valentine's Day. He was able to take the rest of his work week off and unfortunately spent the last of it at the doctor's. Disrespect would have been never showing up and lying to me about coming back, but he did neither of those things. Not every job gives you the luxury of taking time off for whatever you want just because you ask prettily and I think that's what you're not getting. It wasn't that he didn't try, it wasn't that he was lazy, it was that his superiors flat out do not care and their only priority is work. Just because we're in a relationship and he's the man doesn't mean he has to do everything and move mountains in his life just to accommodate me. Your expectations of him are warped and frankly you have no right to have them as he isn't yours and I only shared my visit out of common courtesy for the people who were literally flipping out over my wellbeing and not if I was being battered and bruised in any sense.

[princessmia]

I am sorry that this has happened, but that's sometimes how stuff pans out. Unfortunately.
I loved reading the 'sweet' part of your visit, and my heart sank when I read the 'bitter' part.
I'm sure I don't have to say cherish the time you did have with him.
Even though it may haven't have been the best visit, continue to look forward to the future. It can only get better
You didn't get to spend all the time with him as it was planned, you got to spend 2 1/2 days with him talking and such. I'd kill to have that time with my SO, seeing I haven't met him yet.

[MissShortie]

Wow Disney World doesn't sound like a fun place to work at.... I love going to Disney World, I love the atmosphere there, but I wouldn't be able to be ruled by work... or well not ruled I don't know what other word to use... well I guess in a sense they are ruling his time? he can't take time off to be with you because they won't let him, sounds like you would have to be a strong person to work there, if I worked there I could see myself breaking down in tears because that's how I am haha

[LadyMarchHare]

princessmia: Story of my life, really. Honestly looking back I'm glad we did get the time we did. I was very happy and I felt at home and safe. I know he feels just as bad about our time being cut short, but I think this put a bug up both our butts to work toward a better and hopefully longer visit.

MissShortie: They're also not very ethni-friendly (I think there was a big news stink some months ago about it) but no, from what he's told me since the beginning they're really not. I know part of the reason why he's taking these hours is where he lives right now is very expensive and he can't break the lease just yet. I know it's really worn him down and he's gotten several 103 degree fevers because of how hard he works. I really wish he'd get another job but I hear the job market down there's extremely slim and I don't think he wants to move back home to Georgia.

[Dziubka]

First off I wanted to let you know that I too had been worried about you. We haven't ever really talked before, but I read your posts and your blog and what you wrote did make me sort of uneasy I guess. I had been waiting for news from you the whole week.
I admire you for taking the trip. Honestly, I wouldn't have done it under the same circumstances. I think it's great that you did it anyway, you're very brave.

I 100%ly agree with Zephii, though. I obviously only know what you've written, but imho he wasn't being very respectful and considering you had come out all the way to see him even though it was really difficult for you and then paid for the flight and the hotel, he didn't really make an effort.
I understand that his work is demanding, that he doesn't want to lose his job. My boyfriend and I both study and we've had to cut short "us-time" on visits for school more than once in the past. Exams are exams, unfortunately "my SO was visiting" is not a valid excuse for not showing up/failing.
The thing is... maybe you just didn't mention in, but I didn't get the feeling that he was all that hung up about it? If Disney's really such a shit employer, is he at least passively looking for another job?

Also a doctor's appointment can be rescheduled, especially if it's a check-up and nothing urgent. And he could have been more understandable about your calling. You were in a city you don't know and he got sick. There's no reason to be grumbly about that.

It's true that never showing up or lying would have been worse, hell... spitting on you would have been greater disrespect, too (sorry) but that doesn't mean that what he did was ok.
*edit: I don't know if it works, and you are allowed to think it's stupid and that I'm being unreasnable. But have you tried to read this thread and the last posts of your blog, pretending that it wasn't you who has written that? Maybe try to read it, as if it was someone else's story and you might see where I'm coming from.

I'm so sorry for you and I hope that this works out for the better in the future, but remember that you're an awesome person and deserve only the best <3

[LadyMarchHare]

My mother and I talked at length about the whole "well you paid for this why couldn't he have done x or x" and I agree, to an extent. I had to make a lot of effort to just get the ball rolling and my view on that is he wanted me to take the initiative as I'm not used to doing that. That may be true, it may not be. But he did make the effort to beg to get off work early the day I flew in so he got there at 6 instead of around 11 or later, which I appreciated.

As for being hung up about the situation, I think he was worse off than I was. I mean I was crying, but he was the one who actually had to gather the willpower to leave me there, knowing I'd be alone with no comfort. He even texted me for a while after he left, begging that I not sit there and mope and how sorry he was. Like I mentioned just a post before, Orlando's job opportunities are slim and low-paying. Plus it takes time he doesn't have to submit resumes, go to interviews, etc and he won't let me help on that end (pride). The doctor's visit, I encouraged he go to because the night before he was having bad chest pain and was complaining that he felt like his ribs were bruised. The man scared me when he laid in the bed clutching his chest, I thought he was having a heart attack.

And I know that some of the things he did were not alright, I'm not excusing him entirely because I know things could have been different, but I also know fussing about them's not going to bring about any change. I could sit here and make one million excuses for him and explain away every bat of the eye and breath he took but I won't since it's rather a waste of time. The situation wasn't the best, but he at least treated me right when he was there and frankly that's what matters to me.

[paulawriteslove]

First I would like to say that I'm glad you had a save trip. I'm sorry things didn't turn out like imagined, but hopefully it will next time

[Rugger]

I'm sorry your first visit didn't go as well as you'd hoped, love. *Hugs* Hopefully He'll get to come down real soon, and you two can make up for lost time.

I'll sedn you cuppycakes if you want?